Sunday 2 February 2014

Do guys ever really get over their 1st girl...

Read this article "Do guys ever really get over the first girl to break their hearts?" on Elite Daily and felt it had rather good descriptions.

Here's the full article if you desire its full load: http://elitedaily.com/dating/sex/do-guys-ever-really-get-over-the-first-girl-to-break-their-hearts/. But not everything on the article sounds agreeable to.

As for this post on my blog, these few excerpts are strikingly the most pertinent illustrations for me...

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I don’t believe any man ever fully gets over her. Although we know she isn't “the one", and though we know it wouldn't work out even if we tried again, she still remains the fullest memory we have of love; for this reason, she will never be entirely forgotten.

It’s not being the first love that makes the shadow haunt you long after she’s moved out of your life; it’s the love that cuts the deepest, leaving an irreversible scarring. The relationship was very emotional, fluctuating from intense love to intense distaste, to a certain feeling that can only be described as numbing.

Regardless, these girls remain a part of us for the rest of our lives. They are what we base and compare all subsequent relationships to. They are whom we compare a potential new partner to when considering a new relationship. They are the standard that all men live by as far as love and relationships go. The reason this doesn’t change is because the woman we can’t let go of no longer actually exists. Who we remember is not the woman she now is, but rather, a woman she once was.

She is a ghost we keep alive and go back to when things get difficult — the hope for better days that keeps us going.

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Lemme end this post with this tweet by @thegooglefactz that I think is altogether true:

"Psychology says, you never really stop loving someone; you either never did, or you always will."

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